Female | 22
Hi mam, spandana speaking. I have this fear of getting attached to the people and when they get attached to me it's like I'm unable to detach from them. Sometimes developing my own imaginations about the person and overthinking about the situations. Fear of losing people who are very close to me. And i couldn't take a the closest person avoid me that's more painful and when they are trying to avoid I feel so dipressed and obsessed. I couldn't take that special avoid me .... Who was once very much interested in me and due to that I'm not interested in trusting people. And sometimes I'm loosing my self control. The urge to text them or ask them anything I want. The more the person is avoiding...the more attention I'm seeking. All i want that is that person to have interest in me again and live happily. I want him need him. But i know we can't force someone to have feelings for me. I got struck here and not able to move on. Your answer would be very much helpful to me. I have even faced a lot more difficult situations than this...the same issue 3 years back. But that person didn't give me any expectations and i had very good reason to let him go. After that this person came into my life and made me feel special again...who is now making me feel I'm worthless. That's even more painful for me. It's not that i want revenge. I need to answers why he did so...why he made wrong promises and wrong expectations. I have lost my emotional connection with my cousins...my relatives..... I even lost the person whom I loved first....but this person I'm not ready to lose. I'm done giving people all the love and care I have , they ended up leaving me and this person is also doing the same but I'm not ready to let him go yet!. There is a small hope that someday he might change. I gave all love and care that i have. I just want to be feel loved ...taken care of and valued again. Could you please help me through get out of this messy thoughts.
1 Answer
Psychologist
Answered on 23rd May '24
Hello...I've understood your problem well and this can be treated. There may be several factors associated here. Your relationship attachment style, personality type, personal history and childhood and the behaviour of that person as well. Cannot comment or make decisions based on this, as I need to knkw more about you and do some assessments as well. But, this can be treated through CBT, DBT and Hypnotherapy. You can connect with me to book an appointment and we can discuss this in detail. I take online as well as in-person sessions.
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