Female | 28
How can I improve my penetrative sex experience?
Hi, I have been facing some issues in my sex life. We had couple of difficult experiences while having penetration previously, so we took a break from it and switched to oral and other forms of stimulation and we were enjoying it as well. But now we wanted do penetrative sex again, and when we tried we failed, as I have got pretty scared and meanwhile he lost his erection and wasn't completely hard on, so the experience wasn't good. How can we fix this? Also, I feel even if we stop being fearful about it, we are sometimes unable to find the hole, sometimes the vagina gets too dry to allow the penis in, and then it gets frustrating. Also, being on top is something that I am absolutely scared of, first I am not sure if my posture is correct to take it ahead, second I am fumble a lot to find the hole, even tho I know where it is exactly. My vagina expands a lot when fingering happens, even with three fingers, but I assume there is some issue with penis penetration. Please help.

Sexologist
Answered on 25th Feb '25
It’s common to feel anxious about penetration after difficult experiences. Issues like dryness can affect comfort, so consider using a water-based lubricant to help. Gradual reintroduction to penetration in a relaxed setting may build confidence. Practicing different positions, including on top, can help you feel more in control; communication with your partner is key. If anxiety persists, it might be beneficial to speak with a sexologist who can offer personalized strategies and support tailored to your needs.
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Questions & Answers on "Sexology Treatment" (871)
Hello, Im actually having a pregnancy scare if its okay to ask here because ive been mentally down right now my anxiety is killing me, Is it possible that semen can pass through 2 layers of clothes? because i fingered my girlfriend but only in the outside and I didnt insert my finger is it possible if pre cum is present will she be pregnant? please help me
Male | 20
Answered on 23rd May '24

Dr. Arun Kumar
I have hand practice problem. And sex timing problem.
Male | 17
It sounds like you may be experiencing two separate concerns. For difficulties with hand movements, possible causes include overuse, repetitive strain, or carpal tunnel syndrome. Symptoms can include pain, weakness, or numbness. For issues related to timing during physical intimacy, factors might involve anxiety, nerves, or fatigue. Practicing relaxation techniques and ensuring good communication with your partner can help. I encourage you to take frequent breaks and consider gentle exercises for your hands. If these issues persist, seeking advice from a sexologist is a wise step for tailored support and reassurance.
Answered on 24th Feb '25

Dr. Madhu Sudan
I am masturbating from a very early age i think from the age of 7 or 8 . I think because of excessive masturbation i am suffering from pre mature ejaculation . While watching porn I discharge in half a minute. How to get rid of pme ? Is it cureable ?
Male | 20
Body activity is usual, however, when a teenage boy exceeds the limit of practicing masturbation he may face premature ejaculation. You might come to a climax fast while watching porn. This is termed as premature ejaculation. You can use methods such as stopping and starting during arousal, concentrating on relaxation, and if needed, talking to a therapist, to work on this.
Answered on 28th Oct '24

Dr. Madhu Sudan
I am a south indian boy(22) an my mother (39) is a housewife and a tailor.My father and my mother are seperated 8 years ago.Since then me and my mom are living alone.From a few years I am getting sexual feelings on my mom and i think she is also interested in it. She keeps kissing me irrespective of the situation and touches her private parts accidentally to me and smiles after it.I think she is giving hints to me that she wants to fulfill my father's place.Now i am really interested in her.Should I ask her directly and proceed or should I take it slowly.please give me any suggestion
Male | Alone boy
We need to be aware of the fact that attitudes towards a parent may be intricate and sometimes ambiguous. You may have experienced such feelings because of your strong bond with your mom/father rather than perceiving him/her/it as a romantic partner. Being concerned in such relationships carries a lot of psychological problems. It might be of great help to talk about these feelings with a psychologist or sexologist who would know what to do and be there for you. The time spent on the proper examination of feelings in a safe, non-judgmental environment will help both of you cope with the relationship easily. Using professional help as a priority can bring clearer understanding and better emotional outcomes for you both.
Answered on 6th Jan '25

Dr. Madhu Sudan
I had an oral sex with someone and now my penis hole (tip) is expanded a little much and causes mild burning condition
Male | 25
The penis opening feels irritated. This condition leads to burning and discomfort. Oral sex friction causes this irritation. Saliva exposure irritates too. Drink lots of water. Avoid spicy foods that irritate. Keep the area dry and clean. If symptoms worsen or persist, see a urologist. They evaluate and treat the irritated penis opening properly.
Answered on 6th Aug '24

Dr. Madhu Sudan
is it possible to get pregnant if the fingers had pre cum on but he wiped it with his shorts and touched other things then after many minutes he touched my wet clitoris?
Female | 19
Being pregnant from your situation is quite uncommon. Pregnancy needs sperm traveling into the vagina and meeting an egg. Pre-cum might contain sperm, but becoming pregnant from only touching it than your clitoris is highly improbable. Using protection during sexual activity prevents pregnancy best. If you're worried or have strange symptoms, speaking with a gynecologist about your specific circumstances is a wise choice.
Answered on 19th July '24

Dr. Inderjeet Gautam
I am 43 years male l have Erectial dysfunction and i have diabetes from Last 8 year now I lost total erection I used viagra 100 mg but no response
Male | 43
This trouble can occur in diabetic males. This is due to damage to blood vessels and nerves. The prescribed treatment will depend on how severe and resistant your condition is. Besides Viagra, your doctor will inform you of other remedies that you may want to use together with Viagra to see whether there is any improvement. They can also advise you to try counseling or other psychological treatments that can be helpful for you and your partner.
Answered on 23rd May '24

Dr. Madhu Sudan
I am Abdur Razzak and from Bangladesh. I am 34 years of age. I have a problem of erectile dysfunction for 18 years. Do you provide the treatment for it?
Male | 34
Answered on 16th Dec '24

Dr. Arun Kumar
How to cure premature ejaculation and what is the medicine for it
Male | 29
Premature ejaculation can be treated by different methods including the stop-start technique, squeeze method and Kegels. Other medications used by specialists after a thorough survey include dapoxetine and tramadol. Proper medical treatment is necessary in case of prolonged or recurring premature ejaculation.
Answered on 23rd May '24

Dr. Inderjeet Gautam
Whenever I try to have intercourse, my penis does not get erect
Male | 23
It is both spiritual and bodily health that is very important to consider. It is a good idea to start with relaxation methods, along with the honest exchange of thoughts with your partner, and lead a healthy lifestyle, in which regular exercise and a good diet are included. Still, in case the problem continues to bother you, my suggestion would be to see a sexologist who can give you medical treatment if needed. He/She will come up with a solution that fits you well and, along with that, carry out some tests to determine the roots of the problem and give you the required help and care.
Answered on 6th Jan '25

Dr. Madhu Sudan
i ve 42 year men, erection problem and quick discharge
Male | 42
You are suffering from a prevalent issue that a lot of men go through such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Symptoms may include getting an erection, maintaining an erection, and ejaculating too quickly. This could be due to stress, anxiety, or some health problems. To enhance your condition, try using stress management techniques, eating healthy, exercising, and talking to your partner about your needs. You can also talk to a sexologist.
Answered on 31st July '24

Dr. Madhu Sudan
I feel minor pain in penis , when i do sex
Male | 24
It is usually to feel a bit of pain in your male member during sex, but if it is there often or it tends to be severe, there might be a few causes. The burning sometimes can be caused by insufficient lubrication, an infection, or just a small injury. You can aslo consult a sexologist for proper advice.
Answered on 30th Nov '24

Dr. Madhu Sudan
I am 30 year old female. I am single from past 3 years.. I am in one sided love with one person whom I can never pursue. I strictly don't want another man in my life. And strictly I am not interested in self exploration things. But the sexual desires and wants are leading to depression. I want to destroy my sexual desires and thoughts so as to feel less intimacy frustrated. Is there any medicines that can help reduce sex wanting harmones ?
Female | 30
It's important to understand that sexual needs are a natural part of being human, not something abnormal. It's okay to feel bothered or depressed about them. Medications like hormone suppressors are risky and can cause serious side effects. Instead, I recommend speaking with a counselor or therapist who can help you explore and manage these feelings in a healthy, positive way, rather than suppressing them.
Answered on 21st Nov '24

Dr. Inderjeet Gautam
I am 36 yr old male havg Ed and gets tired soon needs sexology advise and feels low bcz of this
Male | 36
In case you have problems with erectile dysfunction and energy levels which are not enough it may be useful to consult a professional sexologist. These symptoms may be attributed to several conditions, and a specialist will offer an accurate diagnosis and recommend effective treatment.
Answered on 23rd May '24

Dr. Inderjeet Gautam
I am 25 yera old. I have early discharge problem
Male | 25
This could be due to various reasons like anxiety, stress, or even certain medical conditions. It's a must to have thorough communication with your partner and be as relaxed as possible during intercourse. Try out these techniques too; the start-stop method and consulting a doctor can be beneficial.
Answered on 14th Oct '24

Dr. Madhu Sudan
Hello, I'm 17 years old.I lost feeling in my bladder and clitoris.I don't know when the bladder is full.I don't feel any excitement and sex drive anymore.The clitoris is no longer sensitive to stimuli, to touch.A year ago I had a feeling. I had ultrasound and blood tests performed by a gynecologist and a urologist, the results of the tests show no abnormalities. At this age I shouldn't have any problems with it. It worries me that I won't get any pleasure from having sex. What could be the cause? Is there any chance and way to get back feeling in clitoris and bladder? Please help.
Female | 17
Answered on 23rd May '24

Dr. Arun Kumar
Hi doctor, i am adil 34 years old, from oman, i have done something i am really afraid, i went to prostitute, once we laid on bed she started touch my penis and rubbing smoothly, after that she came close to me her back was touched my chest and my penis touch multiple time from side ( not sure if tip touched vagina) and she was already wet ejaculated, then i hugged her , and sucked her breast, not felt any fluid, there was no intercourse no vaginal or anal sex, when i came back home after couple of hours i felt something wrong, and my penis tip started burning mild, then after some days irritation and burning more also transparent discharge, i went to the doctor and he tested, culture urine and cbc and crp, they found a bacteria and inflection of prostate and urine, but he said its in intial stage, in reports not mentioned what time of bacteria present no bacteria name was there, he. Gave me cefim 400 and ural powder for 10 days , pain reduced and discharge as well but still there is burning which goes and come back sometimes mild, my question is am i in risk of hiv?
Male | 34
According to your description, you may be suffering from slight irritation, probably caused by a urinary tract infection or prostatitis- all of which are being treated by your doctor. The possibility of HIV transmission from such practices is quite low. Nonetheless, the most important measure is regular STI examination to ensure that you are physically well and confident in your peace of mind. In case symptoms remain, it is a priority to set up an appointment with your healthcare provider or a sexologist who will recommend the right treatment. Being in communication with an expert will help alleviate your anxieties more totally.
Answered on 24th Dec '24

Dr. Madhu Sudan
Hi, I was at a club and got head in the bathroom I askeed if she (now I don’t know maybe she was trans)(I am 100 percent straight) was clean she said ya . I got head and the following day and the day after I got small very minor bumps on my foreskin below my penis head like its very small minor bumps you can call it. What might that be ?
Male | 21
The lumps you have could be related to a skin disorder called folliculitis. Folliculitis occurs when the hair follicles swell and become inflamed, sometimes due to bacteria. It can develop as little bumps or pimples. Cleaning the area and staying away from irritants will be the most helpful. If the bumps do not go away or worsen, a sexologist should be consulted for proper lab tests and medication.
Answered on 11th July '24

Dr. Madhu Sudan
How I can stop mastrubation as I'm doing it 3 to 4 times a week and is it effective on my cricket life
Male | 25
Masturbation is a regular sexual activity that is natural and healthy. It has no effect on your overall physical well being and your ability in cricket. Moreover, if you want to reduce the frequency but unable to do by yourself, you should visit sexual health specialist. They can assist you in discovering the real problem and give you the needed advice on how to cope up with the situation.
Answered on 9th Sept '24

Dr. Madhu Sudan
Mera penis sex karte time nahi hua khada prr vaise ho jata hai agar mai mastrubation karta hu Aisa kyu ho raha hai ?? Aisa 2 baar ho gya
Male | 23
You can’t get hard during intercourse but have no problem when you masturbate. This might be caused by stress or anxiety. At times being too concerned about how well we do in bed affects our bodies’ ability to function normally. Take it easy. However, if it happens again then consult your doctor immediately.
Answered on 14th June '24

Dr. Madhu Sudan
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